An Unassuming Narrative Of a Life Well Lived So Far


Let's start with the era I was born - 8th April 1981. Those days, ultrasound didn't detect cleft defects, and my parents - Vinod And Nishi Sanghi had no idea what it was all about. Nevertheless, they accepted me with open arms and loads of love, which no one has been able to match to date.

Though my childhood was marred with 6 surgeries, the first one conducted, when I was just 5 months old, I have no memory of those. It had been the untiring resilience and "Never Give Up" attitude of my parents which bestowed on me a secure and happy childhood.

Many cleft warriors speak about discrimination in society and educational institutions. Probably, I was one of the lucky few who never had to undergo any humiliation. I had an amazing battery of friends who always acted as my shield and even fought for me if the need be.

My college life turned out to be a smoother ride, with hardly anyone ever questioning about the scar or unclear speech. Maybe they knew, but I was never ridiculed. Those friendship bonds will always remain an integral part of my existence.

With an engineering degree in Information Technology, my immediate worry after starting my professional career was of not being heard and wading through the web of networking. However, after 18 years, I can boast about a respected professional career, spanning 3 Software companies. Some of the best moments of my life are the ones I have spent with my colleagues and I am sure there are more to come.

While we get to choose our friends, family is a unit we are born into. I  am lucky to be part of a familial clan - aunts, uncles, granny, granddads, nieces, nephews, cousins, for whom I have immense respect and love abound. 

Now comes the sweetest part. If I am to close my eyes and recall one happy memory,  it's the ever-smiling face of my younger sister - Taruna Sanghi Sharma, while I was wheeled out of OT, post-surgery. She is the epicenter of my happiness. Life would have been incomplete without her and our family without my brother-in-law - Amber Sharma. Thanks, kiddos, for all the fun and laughter you bring into my days.

Lastly, I will always be indebted to the medical fraternity who treated me, gave me hope, and helped me to nurture a more confident version of myself.​ 

On a parting note, life is what you make out of it. Mine had its share of ups and downs, and still does - All we need to remind ourselves is that each one of us is unique. It's just a matter of keeping our hopes alive and strength intact.

Signing out for now!!
Vinita